Trust me when I tell you, I’ve worked with some weirdly difficult parents.
Here are a few adjectives I’d use to describe these parents:
– overly indulgent
Now I am FULLY aware that no one’s perfect. However, I don’t believe in using that famous phrase as an excuse to be mean and nasty to anyone.
Fortunately for me, though, I’ve also had the pleasure of working with some of the most lovely parents ever!
I’ll be happy to divulge into that in another post.
Today, however, I’d like to touch on how I uniquely dealt with those meanies.
But before I start, let’s have a look at this DISCLAIMER: Some of you may not agree with my approach. However, I am here to share my experience and tell you exactly what has worked for me in the past. Just as everyone else is entitled to their opinions, so am I. Please know, though, It is not my intentions to offend anyone.
Now on to the juicy stuff!
My primary approach is very spiritual, but there are practical ways to go about doing it as well. Today I’ll share with you the spiritual approach, which is most important and was absolutely beneficial to me.
If you’ve read the fun facts about me, you’d already know that I am a Seventh Day Adventist Christian.
I am obsessed with Jesus, my favorite book is The Holy Bible, I believe the Bible is the true word of God, and though my righteousness is like a dirty old rag, I try my utmost best to live according to His words.
Succinctly put, friends, I overcome all my trials and tribulations by praying, trusting God, having faith and doing what I have to do to make things better for myself.
Oh, I also depend on Him to help me through it all! 😀
So when times were rough on the jobs, I prayed. I prayed because God’s word told me to “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 6-7.”
When I felt as if things would never change or get better, I trusted God because he told me to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3: 5-6.”
Oh, I must admit, I had days where the only thing that clouded my mind was the disbelief that I couldn’t get a better job because If I quit, I wouldn’t be able to get a good “reference.”
But guess what? When I had doubts, God reminded to that if I had faith and believed, “my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Phillippians 4:19.”
There were many days I wanted just to quit those horrible jobs, but God kept me until it was the right time.
I remember the times when I use to pray and cry, begging God to give me the courage and the strength to deal with those mean and unappreciative parents.
I remember those cold wintery days when I had go to a boring music class in 8-degree weather because they “paid” for the class. And when I had to push the stroller through the 6 inches of snow, or through the pouring rain, to get to a dance class. I use to walk down the streets literally crying, begging God to give me the strength to keep me going through that single day.
Oh, man! I had some really rough days. I seriously HATED those days.
I’ve lived in the USA over 14yrs, and I still have not acclimatized to this horrible weather in NYC.Crazy, right?!
Anyway, I was not happy. And whenever I was not happy, I prayed and prayed until my prayers were answered. I would beg God to deliver me, and to allow me the opportunity to find a better job. Especially one that would make me happy.
Well at least for the first 6mths. LOL.
Thankfully, though, I can boast and say how blessed I am because I got what I asked for.
Whenever I quit a horrible job, I was fortunate to find another family that was much better than the last. 😀
Today, I am proud to say I am still working with an amazing family. I love them, and they love me. YAY! 🙂
So, friends, this brings us to the end of my unique approach to dealing with difficult parents as a nanny.
The problem was the difficult parents. My solutions were to continue giving my best on the job, pray a lot, and let go when I couldn’t tolerate it anymore.
Pretty simple stuff, I must say!
So to those of you who believe in prayer, I encourage you to continue praying. Prayer really changes things, and I am a living testimony of that.
To those of you that believe otherwise, I totally respect that.
I’d love to hear your stories, and if you were also “fortunate” to work with total meanies, but found really cool ways to deal with them, why don’t you share it with me/us?